This week's episode of The Singles Rant is all about the "side piece". What's a side piece, you ask? A side piece is a man or woman that a person dates while they are in a relationship with someone else. Judging from our Atlanta singles, almost everyone has either had a side piece or been one before.
For those of us that don't enjoy being the "little something on the side", we have compiled a short list of signs to look for to find out if you are in fact the side piece so that you can get the heck out of dodge! Check it out:
1. He/she only talks to you at specific times of the day.
Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being on a routine with bae. We are all busy, I get it! But, if he/she NEVER switches it up and calls or comes by outside of the usual meeting times, that should be enough to make you go "hmmm". I'm not saying you need to pull an Angela Bassett "Waiting to Exhale" move, but I would definitely pay attention to this.
2. He/she never introduces you to anyone close to them
How many times do you need to hang out with his boy from college or her friend from work before you realize you're never going home to meet mama?! If your significant other never makes an effort to include you in activities with the people that matter the most to them, chances are, you aren't one of them. DISCLAIMER: Times are a'changin' and there are reported incidences of side pieces coming to family barbecues and trips. (People are getting bolder, keep one eyebrow raised).
3. You've never been on a real date.
This may be the oldest trick in the book. If you have to ask to be seen with your partner in a public setting or outside of his/her living room, honey, it's time for change. Run. Do not pass GO. Do not collect $200. Run.
4. The conversations are ALWAYS sexual
We all have a little fire inside that spills out from time to time and there's nothing wrong with talking dirty to bae as long as you both consent, but if the conversations are almost always about physical interactions, this situationship probably isn't going anywhere but to the bed and this is a clear sign that you may be just a quick thrill to them. If you are okay with this just being a hit it, quit it, kind of thing, then more power to you, but if you know that you're looking for something more, get out while you can.
5. Something doesn't seem right
Let's face it, we all have intuition and many of us can tell when something just doesn't seem right. When you ask your partner certain questions and the answers seem a little fishy or you just can't put your finger on the strange feeling you're having, you should LISTEN! Remember, where there's smoke, there's fire! Don't be so caught up in wanting love that you ignore the warning signs.
If any of these signs are appearing on your road to love, be sure to take proper precautions! Have you ever been a side piece?