Wednesday, November 25, 2015

The Dating Game

Being single is tough but that's not breaking news. As I sat down to write, I tried to think of my least favorite part about being single. Don't get me wrong, it isn't all bad; the freedom and self-awareness is humbling but come on, everybody wants somebody to love. I think, for me, the worst part about being single is the dating game. All of the small nuances that go into this cat and mouse chase can be overwhelming and frustrating.

If you like someone, you can't tell them directly, or if you do, and the feeling is mutual, you can't call too much, because you don't want to look thirsty, but you can't be too distant because they will lose interest. Don't get me started on bringing social media into the mix. You check their various social media accounts several times a day; you can generally tell them who their closest friends are before you've met them, but you have to be silent and pretend not to know these things for fear of being committed to the looney bin.

I wish we could just say exactly what we feel to people when dating. Wouldn't that eliminate a lot of wasted time and energy spent on someone so that you could get closer to the person you're supposed to be with? I mean why can't you just say "I like you, let's make this work." Why must we play the games and follow all of these made up rules just to hope someone may like this facade we've painted?

However, my distaste for the dating game is probably the reason I am single. I'm still trying to learn how to flirt and stop ending up in the friend zone, so I may not be the best person to be listening to right now. There has to be a healthy balance between the game and reality. I do honestly think that people respect you more when you're honest and upfront about who you are. I'm going to continue to be the real deal Holyfield and hope for the best, but if it hasn't worked in a few months, I'll be writing "Beyonce's baby cousin" in my E-Harmony profile. **Kanye shrug**

What do you think? Are all of the dating games actually worth the time?

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