Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Call me old fashioned...

I am completely and utterly against making the first move on men. Unless we’re in a bar, I want a complimentary drink, and don’t plan on speaking to you again after that night.

In my short time dating what I call “Today’s Man”, I guess I’ve learned as much as I’ve been forced to accept. One of my principle lessons being: I do not and will not make first romantic contact. While I understand that some men are not as aggressive as others, and may even be intimidated—I remain steadfast that those are the men I simply don’t want.

I’m intrigued by a man who knows what he wants and can strategize to acquire it. If I put myself in a position to take charge, what do I need a man for? History and experience have shown me that as a woman, when you initiate pursuit, you’re not only rushing the process, but most likely taking a voluntary detour from the route God had planned for you in the first place.

Now, I’m certainly not saying that all the men I’ve let pursue me have turned out to be Prince Charming, but I do sleep better at night without some scrub having the option to say “You came after me!” And yep, you’re right, only a scrub would say something like that, but I’ve also found most of the men I pursued to be pretty boring, corny, or frankly uninterested [in me]. Which helps to serve as my reminder that I am not taking my time! (Remember, haste makes waste and a long blocked list.)

For as long as I’ve been in the game and around it, it has been confirmed time and time again, that a man knows what he wants and will prove it, and there’s nothing that can get in the way of that. So this is the philosophy that comforts me when I lock eyes with potential bait at the club, the bank, or the gas station and I keep it pumping. Because regardless of the courting structure we’re being prodded to conform to today, I still challenge and expect a man to be a man.


So if you’re a man, and if you want it, you better make it so.
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This article was written by contributing writer, Patti Swayne. View more of her work here. 


Monday, December 28, 2015

The Top 5 Dating Apps Worth Downloading!

With just a few days left of 2015, you may want to look in the mirror and say "Self, it's time to try something different." You may be old school when it comes to dating but just like you adapted from the beeper to the cellphone and the "Tv Set" to the flat screen.....I'm sure you can give dating apps a try.

Now, dating apps are not for everyone but they may be the answer for most of us. According to a forum created in 2010, nearly 65% of men said they have "no game" and are afraid to get rejected so they wait until a women approaches them which left the ladies responding....."if he is not man enough to come up and approach me then....he is not the one". Hmmm....wonder how many soulmates we've passed up ladies and gentlemen by thinking like that?

Good thing is.....dating apps take a little of the embarrassment and shyness away. I've rounded up the top 5 you should download by 2016 and if you get a match and y'all end up marrying.....don't forget to credit TSR *wink, wink* Ha!

Friday, December 25, 2015

The Singles Rant #7: Dating Apps or Nah







Would you ever join a dating site? Do you already belong to one? Find out what our Philly singles have to say on the topic!

Rant your thoughts below! 


Monday, December 21, 2015

I Believe That There Are Still Some Good Men/Women Out There...


Even though it is much easier to blame the reason of why you're single on the fact that there are just no "good ones" left, I'm going to have to call BS!

Fellas, every woman is not out here chasing Instagram followers by getting half naked in front of their bathroom mirrors, worried about popping bottles in the club, and being a groupie to a known entertainer. Also,Ladies, not all men have ill intentions.

Friday, December 18, 2015

Rant #6: Have You Ever Had A One Night Stand?




This weeks rant gets straight to the point! Have you ever had a one night stand? A question that rarely gets an honest answer but our cast is an open book! Watch how they explain how a one night stand begins, ends and when it's all over and done with....do we see each other again?

Thanks for watching! Rant your thoughts below and please subscribe and share <3

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

POP QUIZ! : WHAT MOVIE CHARACTER ARE YOU?!


We often associate ourselves with characters in the films we are watching. We wanted to know which character you match best with! Want to find out?! Take the quiz below! There's one for both guys and gals!

Monday, December 14, 2015

Here's Your Chance To Be Cast For Season 2!



We are halfway through our first season and we want to thank all of you for tuning in, subscribing to our Youtube Channel and spreading the love. With Season 2 rapidly approaching,we wanted to extend an invitation to our viewers to be casted! Would you be a good fit for "The Singles Rant"?

Leave your email below to be considered, good luck and please spread the word!

Friday, December 11, 2015

Rant #5 Do All Men Cheat? - TWO ALL NEW RANTS!

THIS WEEK we bring you two ALL NEW rants! We are excited to introduce our Philadelphia cast of The Singles Rant!

Listen and be entertained as they dish on the age old question: "Do All Men Cheat?"

                                                                  
(UPDATE: SUZANN'S AGE IS INCORRECT! SHE'S AN ARTIST AND A LADY NEVER TELLS! ;-) )

We couldn't let our ATL cast go without hearing what they had to say on the topic as well, and because we love our viewers sooooooo much, here is a double dose of The Singles Rant! Watch & Share!
                                                                    
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Wednesday, December 9, 2015

The Youniverse: Show & Prove


Lately, I’ve been preachy. Preaching to my girlfriends, the ones that inquire, about not accepting what you don’t want and letting go of what no longer serves you. All the while, I’ve been practicing nothing of the sort.

The truth is, when you’ve convinced yourself that the present situation is the only option, it’s easy to settle for less without even knowing it. For example, I’ve currently been nursing a ridiculous situationship with my ex-boyfriend for the sake of a love we once shared, and convincing myself that he’s what works for me “right now”. But the reality of the situation is: I have a history of loving unavailable men, and he’s just the next Picasso in the patchwork.

Monday, December 7, 2015

PERSONAL RANT: All Men Cheat! Period.


Okay, this week's topic is very controversial. The Singles Rant fifth episode "Do All Men Cheat" which airs this Friday at noon, will be sure to arouse disagreement. Do I think all men cheat? *Bleep* Yes!

No, this is not a "Diary of a mad black woman" but instead a "Diary of a black woman who plays no games and has zero tolerance for nonsense"! I'm not saying that men cheat in EVERY relationship BUT what I am saying is that every man at one point in their life has cheated, point blank period. *Insert ridiculous Dab dance here*

Friday, December 4, 2015

Rant #4 "The Side Piece"



 This topic is not foreign, admit it, at some point we all have had or been a side piece. It would be great if monogamy was preached more often though.

Thoughts? Rant below.

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Wednesday, December 2, 2015

TOP 5 WAYS TO FIND OUT IF YOU ARE A SIDE PIECE



This week's episode of The Singles Rant is all about the "side piece". What's a side piece, you ask? A side piece is a man or woman that a person dates while they are in a relationship with someone else. Judging from our Atlanta singles, almost everyone has either had a side piece or been one before.

For those of us that don't enjoy being the "little something on the side", we have compiled a short list of signs to look for to find out if you are in fact the side piece so that you can get the heck out of dodge! Check it out: 

Monday, November 30, 2015

Flashback To That One Time I Was A Side-Piece.....


                                                                                                                                                                 

So I'm pretty sure you already judged me as soon as you read the title of this article but I promise it's not what you think. Yes, I was a side-piece at one point in my life but unknowingly! Haven't we all?

Here's the back story, I was dating this guy named ****** and we were dating for about a year. Our break up was a normal breakup, honestly, it was just time to call it quits. So, two years later, thanks to social media, I found out I was a side piece because he posted his girlfriend/baby's mother to his Instagram page and in a long caption he thanked her for putting up with him and dating him for five years!

Sunday, November 29, 2015

Rant #3 "Bringing Bae Home"




Rant #3 comes just days after Thanksgiving and we couldn't have picked a better topic! Did you see any new faces at the dinner table  this holiday? When do you think it's acceptable to bring Bae home? Rant Below.

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Wednesday, November 25, 2015

The Dating Game

Being single is tough but that's not breaking news. As I sat down to write, I tried to think of my least favorite part about being single. Don't get me wrong, it isn't all bad; the freedom and self-awareness is humbling but come on, everybody wants somebody to love. I think, for me, the worst part about being single is the dating game. All of the small nuances that go into this cat and mouse chase can be overwhelming and frustrating.

If you like someone, you can't tell them directly, or if you do, and the feeling is mutual, you can't call too much, because you don't want to look thirsty, but you can't be too distant because they will lose interest. Don't get me started on bringing social media into the mix. You check their various social media accounts several times a day; you can generally tell them who their closest friends are before you've met them, but you have to be silent and pretend not to know these things for fear of being committed to the looney bin.

I wish we could just say exactly what we feel to people when dating. Wouldn't that eliminate a lot of wasted time and energy spent on someone so that you could get closer to the person you're supposed to be with? I mean why can't you just say "I like you, let's make this work." Why must we play the games and follow all of these made up rules just to hope someone may like this facade we've painted?

However, my distaste for the dating game is probably the reason I am single. I'm still trying to learn how to flirt and stop ending up in the friend zone, so I may not be the best person to be listening to right now. There has to be a healthy balance between the game and reality. I do honestly think that people respect you more when you're honest and upfront about who you are. I'm going to continue to be the real deal Holyfield and hope for the best, but if it hasn't worked in a few months, I'll be writing "Beyonce's baby cousin" in my E-Harmony profile. **Kanye shrug**

What do you think? Are all of the dating games actually worth the time?

Monday, November 23, 2015

5 Things To Consider Before Bringing Bae Home For The Holidays!



 Singles, don't you just hate the Holidays? Hear me out. When we were younger they were all about seeing distant cousins, grandma's cooking, getting a whole new wardrobe so you can go back to school in the New Year flexing, no bed time, and did I mention....grandma's cooking!!! But as soon as we became an "adult" things got complicated.

Seriously, now when you sit down at the dinner table during Thanksgiving and Christmas it's "Tell me, what's been going on with you? Are you dating anyone?".....you can't even get a fork in your Aunt Suzy's mac & cheese before the questions start flowing. It's exhausting!

So when you do finally start dating someone and want to bring them home you begin interrogating yourself with questions, "Is it too soon?", "Is he too rough around the edges?", "Will he/she like Aunt Suzy's Mac & Cheese?".  Now instead of hating on the fact that you actually have a potential Bae to bring home this year, here are 5 questions you should ask yourself before you bring him/her home.

Friday, November 20, 2015

Rant #2: "Netflix & Chill"



In this hilarious rant, singles dish on the ups and downs of "Netflix & Chill" dates. Bringing you this episode was not easy but we made it happen, 6-hours after our scheduled air time. So, when was your last "Netflix & Chill" encounter? Rant below.

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Wednesday, November 18, 2015

What's The Hurt That Could Happen?



If you aren’t sleeping under a rock, you are probably up to date with the madness that follows ABC’s hit drama, “How To Get Away With Murder”. Don’t worry, there are no spoilers here! However, a recent episode prompted a very interesting discussion amongst my friends.

In an intense scene, one of the leading characters, Nate, tells Annalise that no one could ever love her the way he loved his wife. Ouch!

This painful attack brought on a conversation in one of my many group chats. The question: What’s the worst thing a lover has ever said to you?  The responses were overwhelming and ranged from “You’ll be a terrible mother” as one woman expressed the news of pregnancy to “You are nothing” during a break-up.

It wasn’t the hateful words that tripped me up about these conversations; it was the damage it had done to us all. People say really mean things in arguments, that’s not breaking news. The part that was so common was that each of us could actually remember how our self-esteem changed, how we internalized these moments and allowed them to create delusions about ourselves. We had all been holding on to these words and added them as a guard to the secret box of insecurities we’d all been hiding under our beds.

I was grateful for this conversation because it made me take a good look at all of the other things I’d let myself believe as a result of something someone has said to me. I think it’s so important to address the things that make us strong, but additionally, we must take a good look at the things that have made us weak. If we ever want to find a mate that will enhance our beauty, elevate our minds and capture our true hearts, we must let go of the toxic memories from the past.



Monday, November 16, 2015

Dear Diary: My Latest "Netflix & Chill" Encounter



Dear Diary, 

You won't believe what the hell I just saw! Okay, you know by now that I am just a little bit (maybe a lot a bit) dramatic but seriously....my eyes didn't deserve this! 

So I get home from a long day, hang my coat and my keys up, put down my purse and a text comes in on my hotline bling, it reads "You want to chill tonight?". Knowing me Diary, you know I then replied "What does this "chill" situation involve.....food or nah?". In my mind I was thinking......I know he is not trying to hit me with the "Netflix & Chill"?! 

Friday, November 13, 2015

Rant 1: Why Are You Single?



It's finally here! Rant #1: Why Are You Single? Watch and Enjoy!


We'd love to hear why you think you're single! Rant below and share with your friends via social media! Don't forget to tag us! (@TheSinglesRant)

A new episode of The Singles Rant drops every Friday at noon/EST.



Wednesday, November 11, 2015

You fell in love. Now, what?



Anyone who has ever watched a romantic comedy should know the recipe by now. Boy meets girl, boy chases girl, conflict and drama ensues, boy eventually gets girl. Happy, happy, joy, joy. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a hopeful romantic that still dreams of the fairytale love that Hollywood leads us to believe is waiting at a club or a grocery store or during a coffee mix up at your local Starbucks. Honestly, it would be great if it were that simple.

A question came up during a gossip session with a close friend the other day. We chatted about our current crushes and the people we were dating and then I said, "I wonder what would happen with the rest of my life if I fell in love right now." It seemed like such a superficial thing to even consider but it has me stumped. Up until now I have looked at love as this unseen treasure floating around in the air waiting to be inhaled when I was ready, but, when would I be ready?

Monday, November 9, 2015

You Ever Ask Yourself "Why Am I Single?"


At this time in your life everyone is probably getting married, having kids and living the "American Dream" but you, you attend weddings alone and sit on your couch on Sundays and binge watch TV series on netflix. Not trying to make it seem like being single is completely bad but seriously, have you ever asked yourself "Why am I'm single"?

According to Seventeen Magazine's "Why Am I Single" quiz I'm single because, and I quote